I am often asked what lead me to doula work, and most of the time I usually say because it feels like its the path that I've always been headed to but I've been contemplating on that question for a bit now and I think I need to answer it honestly.
What led me to Birth Work?
I was still active duty when I found out that I was pregnant, I remember the HM2 that told my Senior Chief "does she even know the father". Well, yes I do know the father, he was standing on the P-way when you asked my Senior that question, like I was standing behind you.
That was the first strike that I felt horrible about my pregnancy, the second one will probably overhearing my peers talk about my pregnancy like it was some sort of malady. Nevermind that I wanted this pregnancy so bad, because this is a rainbow baby. Given that I am also less than a year away for my shore orders to kick in and all that jazz, supportive people would refer to this as perfect timing.
I do believe this is the onset of me feeling "down", granted I was one of the most hard working sailor the OI division will ever know ;) I am glad I left that command.
Fast forward to leaving the Navy, and meeting the ladies of Hope Circle. I discovered and explored my emotions with a different set of eyes. For the first time in a while, I let myself "feel" both good and the bad, the ugly, the hate, then back to happiness.
Fast forward to my birth, which I often joke about as Charlie (my little one) has been a "character" since birth since he was breached and no way to turn him since I already lost most of the fluid.
Fast forward to having people that we're suppose to "help" you but in the end just given you an extra work load and unnecessary stress. Breastfeeding was an extremely stressful evolution specially when there's someone always voicing out their opinion on what you can do better or what they did was always better than what you are doing.
There. I think all of that lead me to be a birth worker, more so as a Maternal Health Advocate.